Can Love Happen Twice ?????

People do live with memories - not sure how many and not sure how.

- Ravinder Singh, Can Love Happen Twice?

Can love happen twice ????? Well it's not a summary of any novel...... It's a genuine question that everyone thinks of..... There's so much that we have heard of that love can't happen twice. Love is a one time thing. But i believe that love never dies , it can't be finished with one wrong person. Love is a huge word and there's alot of love in this world. 

Sometimes you need a second chance, because time wasn't ready for the first time.

They say your first love is someone that you will never forget because they left an imprint on your heart which will last forever. Falling in love with them was the best thing you could have imagined but now that it's all over you just don’t know how to feel. Sad, hopeless, angry, perhaps even lost. You’re scared because you don’t know if you’ll ever be able to get over them and you still love them even after they broke your heart.

But...... When your second love will come, you’ll be older, more mature and your thinking will be more rational. You’ll know yourself much better and what you really are looking for in a relationship. When you first fall in love, we often welcome it with open arms and with so much innocence. We don't really think about the journey we’re about to jump in. But now that time has passed, maybe you now want someone with more determination or someone that will inspire you to get out of your comfort zone. The person you will fall in love with may do things that your first love would have never done and you might find it totally awesome. 

It can happen twice and even with more intensity. You should give yourself time to heal from the failures of the first one. So that the new relationship doesn't become a rebound thing. You have to stay positive and beleive in the fact that there's someone out there for you who's ready to love you with all his/her heart. There's someone out there who'll hold your hand and pull you out from the sea of sadness of broken heart. All you need is to give it a chance.

Let your soul fall in love again and you’ll be impressed by how much love you still carry and ready to give.

मेरे टूटे दिल पर उनका मलहम क्या लगाना हुआ
कमबख्त इस दिल का फिर से दिल लगाना हुआ ......

-Rupal katiyar

DOWRY : Ultimate Curse for Society

"An impotent beggar believes in begging for money
                                  But
A potent beggar believes in begging for DOWRY"

What is dowry ?????? Is it an amount of property or money brought by a bride to her husband on their marriage....... Well in my opinion..... NO....... A huge big nooo...... Let's face the truth.....  Truth is.....  Dowry is lifetime gang rape against women. Dowry is lifetime prostitution against men. Dowry is a bed full of brambles.

If it was only just the gift given to the bride then why so many deaths due to it??? Why the harrassment of females in the name of dowry??? Don't you people think that we are actually selling our daughters by paying their price ?????

Irony is today we fix dowry rates for boys of different categories :- doctors, engineers, lecturers, businessmen etc. etc. , does the merit of the girl has no value???? Though government pass the Dowry Prohibition Act way back in 1961 making it illegal, but did this so called "gift exchanging" really stopped ????

To do away with this evil, people have to look within their mind. Their conscience should be stirred that this practice is not good for the society as a whole.Though many laws can be proposed to curb dowry system, it is not possible to eradicate the evil unless there is change in people’s mind. The reason for dowry is greed.

Social mental set up also works behind it such as in Indian society girls are considered a liability while boys as assets. Dowry is not the only problem of Indian society, attached to it is the whole bunch of corresponding evils. Middle and lower income groups who are not able to fulfill the demand of dowry think it wise to nip in the bud. Domestic violence is another consequence of this evil.

This system has made the lives of poor parents of girls miserable. If they are unable to arrange a rich dowry, they find it difficult or rather impossible to marry their daughters to suitable young boys. Thousands of poor girls are compelled to pass unmarried life on account of this evil. The birth of the daughter in the house becomes a cause of great worry for the parents. Their lives become miserable. Some parents earn money by immoral means for the marriage of their daughters. Some parents are compelled to marry their daughters to old men or widowers. Brides who do not bring rich dowry with them are ill-treated. They are insulted and beaten and sometimes even killed. Or sometimes these brides themselves suicide. But it's not actually a suicide it's a murder.

Women’s education and enhanced participation in political process, position in decision-making bodies will improve the situation. They need to be provided with shield of protection which should not be blunt like present laws but razor sharp that could really help them and prevent them from taking extreme steps. With whatever intentions this custom may have been started, it cannot be denied that it has failed to give equal status to women in the society. The time has come to scrape the roots and branch of dowry system. Unless we become more progressive in our outlook, less orthodox in our ways and more revolutionary in our ideas, dowry will remain the bane of our society.

Putting you all in the thought of questions by the lines self composed..........

है कीमत लगाई जो तूने मेरी,
क्या सस्ती थी मैं बापू इतनी ?
क्या मिला है मुझे मेरा हमसफ़र?
या लग गई मेरी बोली गुलाम बनकर......

- Rupal Katiyar